While cremation may not be the most comfortable topic to talk about, there’s no need to shy away from the facts. After all, keeping urns at home can be a powerful way to feel close to a loved one. It’s time to clear up some misconceptions about cremation.
You Might Get Someone Else’s Cremation Ashes
It’s any grieving person’s worst nightmare – receiving ashes that may not belong to the person you knew and loved. While it seems like this could happen often (after all, most ashes look the same, right?), there are specific protocols in place so that the identity of ashes are never called into question.
Professional associations have established clear-cut rules, including identification before cremation, only cremating one individual at a time, and immediately marking all remains. So you can rest assured that you’re displaying cremation urns for ashes that belong strictly to your loved one.
Most Religions Forbid Cremation
While some religions forbid cremation, there are many, including the Roman Catholic Church and the Protestant Church, who have expanded teachings on this topic to allow for cremation. As is the trend with many traditions, some faiths have adapted their teachings over time to become more inclusive towards various social practices, including cremation. Consult the leadership in your congregation to learn more about your faith’s specific perspectives.
The Cremation Process Involves Setting the Body on Fire
While the cremation process does rely on the use of a furnace, the body is never set on fire. Instead, the body is reduced to gases and small pieces of bone by contained exposure to intense heat, not fire. The remains are then further processed to result in ashes. The family of the deceased individual can then go on to honor the loved one’s memory by scattering the ashes, keeping urns at home, selecting from keepsakes for ashes, or remembering them in another meaningful way.
Choosing Cremation Means You Can’t Have a Funeral
There are many options for holding a traditional funeral service and performing a cremation. Some families choose to hold a wake before the cremation is performed so that friends and family can have closure. Others prefer to perform the cremation before holding a funeral service, during which they can choose to bury the urn with ashes or display it at the service before taking it home.
Choosing cremation does not limit your options for holding a beautiful funeral or memorial service.
Cremation is Strange and Exotic
While cremation may seem ‘strange’ for those who have only attended traditional burial services, it’s actually quite common. The benefit of cremation is that it provides many options for laying a loved one to rest. Some are attracted to the idea of scattering ashes over a park, while others want to keep their loved one close by selecting from handcrafted urns that make for meaningful home displays.
This array of options is particularly helpful when families disagree on how best to honor the deceased, because the ashes can be divided into smaller portions for each family member to remember them in a special way.
Cremated Remains (Cremains) Are the Same as Ashes
Cremains are the fine pieces of bone fragments that remain after cremation. They resemble coarse, grayish sand. While cremated remains are commonly referred to as ‘ashes,’ they are not technically ash, as the body is not exposed to fire during the cremation process.